There are lots of information
out there about how to have a good marriage. I'm not talking about
staying together or tolerating each other. I'm talking about a great
relationship. Marriages fail at an alarming rate (50%), but couples
will divorce and turn right around and do it again. Why? It is because
we want relationships. Marriage is an institute of God and is a
picture of the ultimate relationship with Him.
Many times people are divorcing
and remarrying someone that has already been divorced. Why do they
think that it will be better than the first one? I know there are
some special cases, but the odds of staying together are less than
50% of first marriage. Marriage gets REALLY good after you learn
to work through the problems. You can't have a REALLY good marriage
if you run from the problems with divorce. (The grass is not greener
on the other side of the fence. We have to learn that our grass
gets greener when we take care of it.)
Marriage should keep getting
better & better & better. When I think it can't get any
better than this, another phase comes along that is even better.
That is what becoming "one flesh" is in marriage. "Two"
can't become "One" if you keep chopping yourself in two
"5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore
God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
To have a good marriage consider
Understand that marriage is God's institute.
2. Determine how you will spend your
money. Do a budget before you are married. This will solve the #1
cause of marriage problems before you get married.
3. Pray together.
4. Communicate with each other. Talk!
5. Find something that you can enjoy
together, just the two of you.
6. Seek your spouse's needs.
7. Become best friends.